What is the advantage of a worry? You are FOCUSED on some aspect of your child. You are paying attention! You are not in denial or avoiding an issue; you are actively focused upon the issue and wanting a solution. This can be enormously productive if you refuse to hex your child with your worry […]

Worry is not a gift, it is a way to curse your child. Here is why: Remember the tale of Sleeping Beauty? The little baby is given two good wishes by two good fairies and then cursed with death by a bad fairy (Maleficent). After this the smallest good fairy gives the baby a healing […]

Mary was a devoted mother. She helped every week in the school canteen and classroom, sewed all the uniforms for her children’s sports teams, ensured her children had music, sport and art lessons, was always the one doing school pick up for other mothers and the first person to host or organize any activity that […]

DANGEROUS MESSAGES If you  were shamed, put-down or ridiculed as a child when you tried to learn you learned to avoid learning. Ridicule  makes learning feel unsafe. Once we have experienced learning as dangerous our capacity to become powerful is damaged. “Stupid. Dumb. Retard.”  Some of us heard these words as we grew.  Maybe your report […]

    I was recently on vacation. Over several days, from a floor high above the hotel pool, I saw many different ways of keeping children safe around water. There were two examples which highlight the cultural rules which make it so hard for western mothers to relax. The first example was a mother whose […]

How do we blossom? this is the question and it is, thankfully, easy to answer. The first step is to make sure we get enough light!   Balance the light and the dark in your life.       If you live in a slum, in a situation of abuse, or are isolated and alone, then there is […]